Source: # The Manager Who Burned Hot *Seema Rao ran a busy finance team in Mumbai. She was sharp and respected, but lately every small delay made her snap. Her chest felt hot, her face flushed, and she woke at 3 a.m. replaying meetings. She ate spicy takeawa…* Seema Rao ran a busy finance team in Mumbai. She was sharp and respected, but lately every small delay made her snap. Her chest felt hot, her face flushed, and she woke at 3 a.m. replaying meetings. She ate spicy takeaway lunches at her desk and skipped breaks. At home she shouted at her teenage son for leaving his shoes out, then lay awake feeling ashamed. Her aunt, who followed Ayurveda, said Seema had 'too much Agni', fire, the element of heat, sharpness, digestion and drive. Used well, fire is energy and clarity. In excess it becomes irritability, impatience and burnout. The aunt suggested cooling habits: less spicy food, regular meals, time near water, a gentle evening walk, and quiet time before sleep. Seema laughed, but she tried it. She also noticed her anger had grown beyond a bad week. When her team member quietly said, 'We are afraid to bring you bad news,' she decided to see a counsellor. The counsellor taught her to notice anger rising in her body, take a pause before replying, and look at the workload she was carrying. A doctor checked her blood pressure and sleep. The change was slow. She learned that her fire was useful, but needed a hearth, not a wildfire. She started to apologise to her son, and to leave on time twice a week. ### How to recognise it - Frequent irritability, impatience or sharp words that others begin to avoid. - Feeling physically hot, flushed or tense, with acidity or poor digestion. - Perfectionism and workaholic habits, with no real breaks. - Waking at night with racing, critical thoughts. - Regret after outbursts and strain on family and workplace relationships. ### What this story explains The chapter describes fire as the element of heat, drive and transformation, and excess Pitta as anger, intensity and burnout. The story shows cooling lifestyle habits together with counselling and medical review. ### Probable root causes - Chronic overwork, deadlines and pressure to perform. - Skipped meals, very spicy food and heavy caffeine. - Poor sleep and no recovery time. - Unprocessed anger, perfectionism or learned habits of reacting with force. ### What to do 1. Notice early signs of anger: heat, tight jaw, fast breathing. 2. Pause for a slow breath or a short walk before responding. 3. Eat regular meals and take real breaks away from the desk. 4. Reduce very spicy food and excess caffeine, especially in the evening. 5. Seek counselling to look at workload and anger patterns, and have blood pressure and sleep checked. ### Whom to consult - Family doctor for blood pressure, acidity and sleep problems. - Counsellor or clinical psychologist for anger management and burnout. - Psychiatrist if anger is extreme, there is violence, or mood has changed greatly. - Qualified Ayurvedic practitioner only as an addition, with your doctor informed. ### Do and don’t **Do** | **Don’t** | Do take a pause before responding when angry. | Don't use shouting as a management style. | Do apologise sincerely afterwards. | Don't skip meals to save time. | Do keep regular meals and sleep. | Don't use alcohol to cool down. | Do exercise or walk in the cool of the day. | Don't expect tradition alone to fix burnout. | Do talk to a professional if anger frightens you or others. | Don't blame others for every outburst. | ### How to behave and communicate - Take a pause with words: 'I need five minutes to think before I answer.' - Own your part: 'I was sharp earlier, and that was not fair to you.' - Listen to feedback without defending yourself. - If you are supporting someone like this, say 'I want to understand what is weighing on you.' - Use a low, slow voice and short sentences when tension is high. [All 35 chapters](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/chapters/) · [183 stories from real life](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/stories/) · [61 Hindu shloks for the mind](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/shlokas/) · [Psychology for Everyone – A Mental Well Being Series](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/) [myadvisorfriend@gmail.com](mailto:myadvisorfriend@gmail.com) · [Contact](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/contact/) · [About](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/about/) · [Privacy](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/privacy/) · [Disclaimer](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/disclaimer/) --- *Psychology for Everyone – A Mental Well Being Series* by Satish Zope · free to read · Contact: [myadvisorfriend@gmail.com](mailto:myadvisorfriend@gmail.com) · [About](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/about/) · [Privacy](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/privacy/) · [Disclaimer](https://poonam.myadvisorfriend.com/disclaimer/)